4 causes of low self-esteem in children
Low self-esteem is one of the main reasons that people enter therapy with me, and the reasons that they have developed low self-esteem are often varied. Despite this fact, there do seem to be some common themes that individuals with low self-esteem share. These are issues and concerns that have plagued them, often their whole life.
Struggling academically without parental or scholastic support.
Children who do have a hard time in school in general, or even in a particular subject, who do not receive the help and support they need at school, or at home, are at a greatly increased risk of suffering from low self-esteem. They feel “stupid,” and ill-equipped. They have no way of knowing if others are struggling as well, but they often feel like they are the only person who does not understand.
This makes them feel like they cannot be successful, and that they are not smart or good at school. The sad thing is that with a little support, an adult figure noticing they are struggling and trying to intervene, this issue can often be resolved. While parents and teachers are over-worked and tired themselves, perhaps if they understood the long-term implications of the matter, they would find a way to help. Often if does not take much to help the student and turn the situation around.
Bullying is another issue that can start young, and last a lifetime.
Children and teens who are bullied, teased, and put down, develop a negative self-image that can carry over into their adult lives. If parents, teachers, administrators, or a solid peer group does not step in to undo the damage that a bully is causing, the individual can hold on to this pain and negative self-image for a lifetime. A child that is told they are fat and stupid just a single time, can hold on to that belief throughout their lives.
Read more here: