The Imposter Syndrome And How To Quiet It In Your Life
Are you unsure what the Imposter Syndrome is but feel drawn to reading about it?
Hmmm… This post may well be a breakthrough for you in your personal and business life.
I am currently enrolled in a class where I am getting more real education on my personality than I ever did studying for my psychology degree.
I learned there are 5 classes of people:
- Task Master
- Data Guru
I believe these terms are coined by the savvy and brilliant Nicole Walters.
The point to these classifications is that our personalities can be broken down into traits. The way to organize these traits is different according to your end goal.
Love languages, archetypes, Introvert and Extrovert typing are all examples of classifications that help us to understand our strengths and weaknesses.
When I completed the survey I found out I was an Example. Before the survey, I would have thought I was a Visionary or maybe a Pusher.
That is until I read the description of an Example.
I am all the traits of an Example. I know where I am going and I have had a lot of success. With relative ease I can get bogged down by details and I tend to suffer from the…
The definition of the Imposter Syndrome is defined as a collection of feelings of not being “good enough” even when the reverse is true. This is an internal feeling (not caused by childhood trauma) of self-doubt and feelings of intellectual fraudulence.
If this is you, just let that soak in. Maybe reread it again.
This is me. I have a good traditional education. Learning has always been huge to me my entire life. I have taken so many classes I stopped framing my certificates and now just keep them in binders.
I am a lifelong lover of studying. In fact, people come to me to have me Google something because I am known for learning.
I have spent my entire adult life pushing myself to grow more.
Even with that, I have feelings of intellectual fraudulence. There’s no basis for it, but I have felt that way my entire life.
One Awkward Moment For Me
I remember sitting in a class and the question of feeling good enough was posed to the group. We each had to talk about the areas that we didn’t feel good enough in.
Most people said 1 or two things. But not me; I had a laundry list.
My list looked like this:
I’m not smart enough, pretty enough, funny enough, talented enough, deserving enough, and all the other not enoughs…
The room fell silent and 2 people literally stared at me with their mouths open. No one knew what to say. I’m sure they felt I had some deep, deep trauma.
I didn’t even know what to say. I had a relatively normal childhood with pretty good parents. I didn’t have major traumas when I was young. I have always thought my life had always been pretty blessed growing up. I didn’t understand why I felt like that.
On top of that, I also suffer from self-doubt which doesn’t come from low self esteem or confidence.
I often think, “What am I doing here… I don’t belong here… I feel like a fraud.”
I am always so aware of what I don’t know yet that I’ve had a hard time with have the title of “Expert”.
I’m not the only one. Famous people like Kate Winslet and Maya Angelou suffer from the Imposter Syndrome. Forbes even writes about it.
The Good, Bad, And What To Do
The good news is that the Imposter Syndrome strikes high achievers so give yourself some street cred for pushing back against mediocrity.
The bad news is that because I couldn’t find a reason I felt like this, I gave into the fears. Sure I built businesses and had success but I always listened to the imposter feelings and I never fully went towards my highest goals or aspirations.
When I was paired with someone that was a Negative Nate or Nancy, it fueled my doubts about myself and my capabilities.
Here is what I am putting into practice (and you can too):
- Feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
There’s nothing worse sounding to me than to live a life of mediocrity and dying without having helped billions of people and changed the world.
Living with limits and fear of exposure takes out the risk, but also leaves you with never knowing how deserving, more than capable and more than worth it you are.
- Focusing on my value.
Nothing feels better to me than helping people. When I can stay focused in that space, I don’t feel the fear. This then pushes me to help more people in every waking moment.
- Letting go of perfection.
We all have this idea of how we want something to look or be. This can be a success killer because if we are always waiting for perfection to arrive, we lose the chance to become better.
I have really put this into play the last couple of years. While I still find myself doing it, I am much better and allowing and beginning to see the value in imperfection.
- Own what you have done and overcome.
This is a big one for me. I’ve always chalked my success up to being blessed. And yes, I definitely was, but I ignored my part in being the vessel for all things good to move through me. I ignored my part in creating my success.
The truth is I am worthy of success and so are you. One more course or mastermind won’t make either of us more worthy. When you can accept the accolades and know that you are doing a great job just as you are then you have silenced the Impostor Syndrome.